You’ve probably seen it before:
Let’s eat, Grandma.
Let’s eat Grandma.Punctuation saves lives.
The classic grammar joke is meant to make you laugh—but it also makes a solid point. One tiny detail can drastically shift meaning. And in the professional world, that’s not just about commas—it’s about how we interpret tone, timing, and people themselves.
In a world of Slack messages, emojis, bullet-pointed emails, and constant multitasking, we’re all making hundreds of microjudgments each day. We assume intention based on punctuation. We assign tone to short replies. We react quickly—and not always accurately.
Early in my career, I worked with a journalist who I felt came across as combative, as his emails were in all caps. At first, I braced myself for every interaction until one day, I asked. He responded that he didn’t know how to turn caps lock off and didn't want to take the time to figure out how. It wasn’t aggression—it was just inertia.
That experience stuck with me.
Years later, when I managed client relations, I’d often coach account leads through emotionally charged interactions. The client seemed angry. Their response felt sharp. But before responding, we’d pause. We’d review the relationship history, their typical style, and what kind of pressure they might be under. Often, the message wasn’t personal—it was rushed, stressed, or misread.
This doesn’t just apply to how we read others—it also applies to how they read us. Think of it like defensive driving. You’re not just sending a message; you’re navigating someone else’s perceptions, assumptions, and emotional state. A quick email might land as dismissive. A delayed reply might feel like avoidance. That’s why clarity, kindness, and curiosity matter so much, especially when you're in the business of building and maintaining relationships.
In a noisy world propelled by a relentless pace, we have to give one another a little grace, little context, and a moment to assume positive intent, because most people aren’t trying to be difficult. They just accidentally left caps lock on.
To read more about my perspective on shades of gray at work, check out my blog post on how hard and soft skills relate to leadership.